Out of all people in the world,
it had to be Robin Williams a comedian. Lot has been already written about
depression being the silent killer. Lot of analysis has also been made as to
how comedians are most susceptible to depression. Correctly appearances can be deceptive.
People have one face for the physical world; one for virtual and third is the
real one. Nowadays its very important to
have balance of mind to deal the situations in life. Modern life with its complicated
ways is at its best to as questions each and every minute. So just as we spend
time to maintain body, its very imperative to keep mind trained to adapt to
various situations of life. Its easy said than done.
Without sounding sermonizing or
without a need to repeat clichés, i have a concrete plan. Let me know if it
helps
1. Define
your horizon: List down top 10 ten things you want in next 12 months. You will
find that the list will have at least 4-5 things which you may like to edit and
delete. Assess the list in at least 3 different times and mood. Say when you
are partying hard, when something happens which you don’t like and most
importantly say between 4 to 6 am in
the morning fresh after decent rest at some scenic location. The common
points in the list will be final. Now don’t worry about moving targets. That’s
very important. Else there won’t be contentment. Eg last week I was at
Panchgani, at a friend’s house. There i had a temptation to add an item of
owning similar place. So let this list be
tight no additions or deletions once you lock it.
2. Go
after it persistently: Now that you have found your list of happiness, you need
to act with steady devotion. Maybe on first day there will be disaster, but
don’t give up. Be bull headed about action. Work on plan A, B and C to achieve
that. Don’t let anyone else’s comments or suggestions affect your decision
making though you would like to listen to all. Be aware of all things. Get on
top of your schedule. There will be one
day when you will reach that horizon. And you will be very happy
3. Don’t
compare yourself with others: As Ravindranath Thakur said, ‘ekla chalo re’. Your
life path has to be walked alone. Your story is unique. Be proud of it. Don’t
sympathize with yourself accusing destiny or others for what you feel has gone
wrong. Own up the mistake and correct it. Be in control. Let not vices control you.
Easier said than done but keep short targets.
Avoid evils of social media. Don’t get jealous of some ones vacation at
exotic places. If you want that let it be in your list first. Don’t allow anyone’s
new car or house to move your target. Be
responsible and honest with your own targets.
Only when an item is achieved add another item to replace. Here i won’t
say be saint and its but natural for normal people to have endless list. My
main point is to prioritize to avoid stress.
4. Enjoy
life’s small things which make you happy be it watching cricket match, reading
book, watching movie, listening to music, trekking, playing with kids,
whatever. These are constant source of happiness. Have a hobby which will bring
down your stress. Dont feel guilty of spending time on these while going after
your wish list.
5. Be
fit. ( this is very difficult for me to advise anyone)
6. Be
considerate of others. Sometime you get angry with people around you in family
or office. You feel someone is conspiring. Some one is not treating you fairly.
Someone ditches you. Some one insults you. Take a deep breath. Try to reason
out why that person has done that thing or said something which you did not
like. Other people are not inherently evil or stupid. They will have their
reason. If in first case you can put your reasoning above them then try to
converse with them politely trying to reason them out. Sometimes it may not
change situation so be it. In second case if you feel it’s you who need to act
in order to improve situation so act.
Point is to put you in others shoes.
7. You
are not god. There are many things you cannot control. Know this inevitable
truth.
On this note
have a great independence day. Most of
the 67 years have been wasted barring post liberalization boom. Story has to be
rebuilt.
On that note how
can i complete narrative without politics and sports?
On International
side one can feel double standards especially here in India and most of the
liberals in west. They are completely quiet about ISIS and other extremist
holocausts. Where in self protection of Israel in Gaza has been pointed out
repeatedly. World is extremely unsafe thanks to some extremist versions of
truth. Same threat extends to India especially as festive seasons are round the
corner. This is the time to be vigilant.
New govt has
completed 3 months and has made right intentions clear though would have loved
them to me more revolutionary in actions especially during budget. But intent
is there and govt presence is felt which was missing. Too early to judge but
efforts to protect Indians abroad in conflict zones, functioning of parliament,
apparent control over prices, focus on
defence etc are notable credits. Monsoons thankfully are not that bad as
predicted though some regions still have deficit. Hope for a good revival next
month.
Maharashtra is
gearing up for elections. Hope we see change there as well to oust the non
performing and corrupt regime. LBT issue is unresolved. The opposition parties
need to be careful in playing their cards. Pune saw metro announcement amidst
politics. BRT, waste management, DP, BPD issues still have no solution. Roads
are pathetic thanks to Monsoon. New MPS need to act now. Thankfully again dams
are 90% full and water scare is postponed till 2015 without any permanent
solution.
Germany won WC.
I had predicted same. Most unusual was the 7-1 match. I had never seen such
thing happening before that too in WC semis.
Team efforts are more important than Individual brilliance as proven. It
was an end of a Spanish era. I felt player of tournament was Robben who was too
electric. But as usual Dutch never crossed the line. Some day maybe...
Team England in
soccer is what Team India is in cricket. Both teams full of overrated star
players. But more than that issue is decline of test cricket in India which is
alarming. No batsmen had patience to
build innings. Those who done better in first two tests lie Pujara, Vijay and
Rahane , gave it away in next two test. Lords win was great but next two losses
showed that Indian juniors are not ready for 4-5 test long series. Max is 3
tests. Board better realizes that. This is effect of IPL and T20. We still are
team in transition since 2nd April 2011. Generation shift and
personnel replacement has not happened. Let’s hope last test they will find
energy from somewhere to square it up. CWG game gave us smiles but competitive
level was bit less. Maybe CWG have lots relevance. Finally it was good to see some Kabbadi
players getting limelight.
Monsoon magic has
turned this part into heaven as had first opportunity to experience last week.
Where are you heading this long weekend?
Author runs a blog http://nayakgiri.blogspot.com
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